Expectations often come from our hopes about how others should act — how a friend should respond, how a partner should communicate, or how life “should” unfold. But expectations can create tension, disappointment, and resentment when reality doesn’t align with the story we’ve written in our minds.

Boundaries, on the other hand, come from within. They’re not about controlling others — they’re about honoring our own needs, values, and limits. While expectations look outward (“They should…”), boundaries look inward (“I will…”).

Letting go of expectations can feel like releasing a heavy weight. It opens the door to acceptance, curiosity, and peace. You may find more space to respond rather than react — to meet people where they are, not where you wish they’d be.

Holding boundaries while loosening expectations is a skill — one that invites both freedom and safety. You can stay rooted in what matters to you without trying to manage anyone else’s choices or emotions.

If you’re noticing how hard it is to balance these — or feeling the pull of old expectations — you don’t have to navigate that alone.

Reach out if you’d like support.

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