WHEN DID I LAST QUESTION MY GENDER
1. When did I decide, chose, or accept my gender?
2. What is the meaning of my birth name?
Do I like my name?
Does my name suit my gender identity and expression?
3. What does the gender I was assigned at birth give me? Take away from me?
4. In terms of my gender, what do I enjoy about being a member of my ethnic group?
5. Am I known as Other/ as It?
What do I like, or have I liked if I was known as Other or It?
6. How does being as old or young as I am, affect how I enjoy or dislike my gender identity or expression?
7. Are there any rights, privileges, or maybe freedoms I get from belonging to my class and gender?
8. Does the kind of work I do give me anything, in particular, that enhances my gender presentation – either materially or socially?
9. Does my religious, philosophical, or spiritual beliefs make it good to be the gender I am?
10. Are my genitals a source of pleasure for me, do I like them just the way they are? In what way?
11. Is there something about my body type, shape, color, ability, or disability that I really like?
Dislike?
12. Is there some sort of security or safety I get out of defining myself in terms of the gender or genders I am romantically attracted to?
13. What benefits might I get by naming myself based on what I like to do sexually?
14. Do I enjoy being defined by or defining myself by something I used to be? (i.e., An ex-nun, a former football player, a widow or widower, a former prospector or past farmer).
15. If I am BIPOC, how does my gender affect me?
16. What comfort do I get from defining myself by my relationship with someone else (family or otherwise)?
17. Would I miss being defined by others as something I do not consider myself to be, if people no longer did that?
18. What perks do I get from being on the outside of some group or identity that does not accept me as a member?
19. What gendered benefits do I derive by reason of my membership in some club, group, party, or organization?
20. In addition to those listed above, what privileges or comforts do I enjoy by reason of any other identities or descriptions that I use for myself?
Or identities that others define me by?
And lastly, if I could change my gender… would I?
Do I want to?
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- When did I decide, chose, or accept my gender?
- What is the meaning of my birth name? Do I like my name? Does my name suit my gender identity and expression?
- What does the gender I was assigned at birth give me? Take away from me?
- In terms of my gender, what do I enjoy about being a member of my ethnic group?
- Am I known as Other/ as It? What do I like, or have I liked if I was known as Other or It?
- How does being as old or young as I am, affect how I enjoy or dislike my gender identity, or expression?
- Are there any rights, privileges, or maybe freedoms I get from belonging to my class and gender?
- Does the kind of work I do give me anything in particular that enhances my gender presentation – either materially or socially?
- Does my religious, philosophical, or spiritual beliefs make it good to be the gender I am?
- Are my genitals a source of pleasure for me, do I like them just the way they are? In what way?
- Is there something about my body type, shape, colour, ability, disability that I really like? Dislike?
- Is there some sort of security or safety I get out of defining myself in terms of the gender or genders I am romantically attracted to?
- What benefits might I get by naming myself based on what I like to do sexually?
- Do I enjoy being defined by or defining myself by something I used to be? (i.e., An ex-nun, a former football player, a widow or widower, a former prospector or past farmer).
- If I am BIPOC, how does my gender affect me?
- What comfort do I get from defining myself by my relationship to someone else (family or otherwise)?
- Would I miss being defined by others as something I do not consider myself to be, if people no longer did that?
- What perks do I get from being on the outside of some group or identity that does not accept me as a member?
- What gendered benefits do I derive by reason of my membership in some club, group, party, or organization?
- In addition to those listed above, what privileges or comforts do I enjoy by reason of any other identities or descriptions that I use for myself? Or identities that others define me by?
And lastly if I could change my gender… would I? Do I want to?
