How to Play with Your Children
Entering Your Child’s World Through Play
Play is how children communicate, explore their world, and make sense of their emotions. By joining your child in play, you can build connection, foster creativity, and support their emotional development. Here are some simple strategies to help you engage with your child in meaningful and imaginative ways:
1. Follow Their Lead
- Let your child decide what to play and how to play it.
- Observe what they’re doing and join in without taking over.
- Avoid directing or correcting—your role is to be their partner, not the leader.
2. Be Present and Engaged
- Set aside distractions and give your full attention.
- Sit at their level and make eye contact when appropriate.
- Respond to their cues with genuine interest (e.g., “Wow, that’s such a creative idea!”).
3. Use Reflective Responses
- Reflect what you see or hear to show understanding:
- Child: “My car is stuck in the mud!”
- You: “Oh no, your car is really stuck—it must be hard to get it out!”
- Avoid asking too many questions or trying to “teach” during play.
4. Embrace Their Imagination
- Enter their imaginary world without judgment. If they say a doll can fly or a block is a spaceship, go along with it enthusiastically.
- Add to their story without taking over. For example, if they pretend to be a chef, you might say, “This soup smells delicious! What’s in it?”
- Ask them to direct your play ie. They give you an ice cream cone, ask “do I like ice cream.” If they say yes, act like you do. If they say no act like you don’t
5. Be Comfortable with Repetition
- Children often repeat actions or stories to process their thoughts. Let them lead the way, even if it feels repetitive to you.
6. Allow Big Emotions in Play
- If your child acts out a scenario with anger, fear, or sadness, let them explore these feelings safely.
- Stay calm and supportive, saying something like, “It seems like the tiger is feeling really mad. That’s okay.”
7. Keep It Simple
- You don’t need fancy toys or elaborate setups. Everyday items or simple props like blocks, dolls, or art supplies can spark imaginative play.
By entering your child’s world through play, you’re showing them they are valued and understood. This builds trust, strengthens your relationship, and supports their emotional growth. Happy playing!
